When the planets align allowing your broom or egg or what not to stand on end; when they add an extra day and take away an hour; when your world seems to have done a 180 and you aren't quite sure why... It's time to write a blog.
I haven't posted any new material lately so I suppose this would be considered long overdue. As with much of my life I have been very introspective the past few months - so I am putting the virtual pen to the electronic page for your consideration. Please be kind.
So for the three and a half months or so I have been hanging out with this guy. Problem is, I can't seem to read him. And perhaps I am reading too much into the situation. When first we went out we closed with the ever awkward hug and "hey I had a good time, we should do this again" bit that is all too familiar to first dates. He would send me random texts asking "how his favorite girl [was] doing" and me being me would respond with a curt "I don't know who is she"? {I might stomp on people's hearts and chivalrous attempts solely with my blunt, dry self} And yet he's stuck around.
We have hung out at least once a week since then with the exception of when I spent a week in Mexico. We have gone to art museums, hockey games, supper, ice cream, movies, hung out with friends and family and yet things seem different. He no longer attempts to open doors, offer the albeit awkward hug, and he has still not attempted to hold my hand. This may seem like a strange observation but it is big to me. We also no longer seem to do anything with just the two of us - everything is either with friends or family or both. The last thing we did with just the two of us was supper which happened to fall on 2/14 - nearly a month ago.
I have two theories:
a) He is still relatively new to town and is looking for people to hang out with. I happen to have a great core group of friends who get together on a regular basis and are welcoming to new comers. Great environment for someone looking to get out of the house more no?
b) He is interested but my personality (some may call it brash or socially awkward - I prefer flippant) has scared him. It's possible that my somewhat ridiculous responses to events and messages were misconstrued as disinterest. Perhaps he is just as confused as me?
The fact of it is I think I like this guy. I enjoy spending time with him. I think he is truly genuine. Some have suggested that I simply ask him - but I don't want to mess things up if he doesn't share the same mindset. I would rather retain a friend than jeopardize that with the "hey are we dating or what is this" question.
Anytime I think I have closed on the correct answer something new falls into the picture to sway my thoughts. And so in an attempt to forcefully swing this sandpaper lined bolder around on the road of life I am posting to you asking, what would you do? What is the "right" way to approach this?
